First things first, let me just say that you should NEVER tell an anxious, upset or angry person to calm down. It’s basically the sure-fire way of ensuring that the opposite of calm occurs.
If you or somebody you know is showing signs of high anxiety, fear or anger then instead of brushing the emotions off there are some things that might help to reduce their symptoms.
You should first acknowledge your feelings, they aren’t something that you should be ashamed of and if you take some time out to sit and think about your emotions you may start to identify the their root cause.
Take some time out, this could be going for a walk, listening to music or even just sitting somewhere quiet. You can use this time to gather your thoughts allowing you to return to the situation with a fresh frame of mind. Exercise is beneficial as it releases endorphins into your body and is a great wait to let off steam.
Talk to somebody, share what’s bothering you with somebody that you trust. Even if they can’t help, you will feel like a weight has been lifted by simply getting it off your chest. After all, a problem shared is a problem halved.
Learn how to relax, techniques such as progressive muscle relaxation (PMR) work wonders by focusing on each muscle in order to fully relax your body. PMR really highlights areas of tension in the body and is a great way to relax – especially before bed!
If you deal with anxiety or anger in other ways then as long as you are not harming yourself or others, keep on doing what you’re doing. Just make sure that you address the underlying cause of your worries as they won’t disappear by themselves!